Being Momma G: Day 50

Jonathan is truly magic. Within 10 minutes of him taking Sean into his arms last night, Sean fell asleep.

While Sean was drifting off, we had a lovely chat about our school days. It had been such a long time since we had had a good chat - we worked out that the last time we sat down and had a good one on one chat about things not related to the wedding and the new house and the baby was quite possibly early last year. Or some time in August during our honeymoon. Either way, it had been a very long time since there were just the 2 of us talking about us, and it was lovely.

The little man slept until 1.30am when he woke up for a feed. Mina was also awake and needed a little bit of help to go back to sleep, but back to sleep she went, as did Sean, at least for a little while. Sean woke again at 3am and had a snack feed, then again at 4.30am, and again at 6am, and again at 8.35am. By the time I finished feeding Sean just after 9am, I was exhausted.

After a full week of outings, and all the crap that went on with the Evil Witch, I didn't feel much like going anywhere. However, after Jonathan and Mina spent the morning making arts and crafts, and having so much fun doing it, we decided to head out to Spotlight to pick up a few more bits and pieces for Mina's arts and crafts box. After lunch (for everyone), we headed to Birkenhead Point and went for a bit of a shop.

We spent about an hour wandering through the fabric section, where Mina chose 3 swatches that she liked, and I picked up a few bits and pieces too. By the time we were finished at Spotlight, Sean was starting to be a bit whingy, so we left for home. The little man enjoyed his feed at 3.40pm and had some cuddles with Daddy for a while. At 5.30pm, Sean and I set off on our big adventure, to attend Lissy's birthday party.

A couple of days ago, when I decided to pull back a bit from Mina after the Evil Witch and the crap, I also decided that I wanted to go to Lissy's birthday party, so I could see my friends and be out of the house, and take Sean to meet more uncles and aunties. This was going to be the first time I'd been out with Sean at night by myself, so I was a little bit anxious, but excited at the same time - it'd been a while since I'd seen most of the people at the party, and I was looking forward to catching up with my friends.

Jonathan and Mina were all set for dinner - they were going to have fish finger burritos, and then stories before bed. Everyone seemed happy when I left the house.

Sean and I arrived at Lissy and Dave's house just after 6pm - Sean was asleep for the entire car trip, and only woke up when I parked the car. He was immediately hungry, so almost as soon as we were in the house and greeted everyone, Sean and I sat down to his dinner. When Sean was finished, he was passed around from one person to another - whoever wanted a cuddle was given a chance.

We stayed a lot longer than we had anticipated - there was a window of opportunity when we could have left, but Sean was sleeping so peacefully in the pram that I decided to let him sleep. Just as I was thinking about leaving, Sean woke up and wanted his feed, so we stayed and fed before packing up and heading home.

As we were getting ready to leave, I saw I'd missed 2 calls from Jonathan and there was a message waiting for me. Things at home weren't going so well. Mina had been happy all night long - dinner was a huge hit, and they got ready for bed, but the minute they sat down on her bed, she kicked up a big tantrum and refused to try to sleep. It wasn't that she couldn't sleep, she just didn't try. After 2 calls to her mother, the Evil Witch went by the house and collected Mina to take her home.

Yes, the child threw a temper tantrum, the first one in almost 2 years, and Jonathan caved and said "you can have whatever you want" and agreed to let Mina go home. Jonathan did exactly what we told the Evil Witch to not do - let the child dictate the terms and get her way.

Understandably, Jonathan was sad by the latest turn of events. He was now going to be missing out on spending tomorrow with Mina, especially when he had planned to do a few fun things with Mina during the day. And I certainly was not helping the situation by telling him that he should have put his foot down and told Mina to suck it up and go to sleep. But as I had made up my mind to pull away from Mina, it wasn't really my place to say "I told you so". Still, I couldn't help myself, and said my piece when I got home.

Right now, Sean is asleep and I've already made a deal with Jonathan that Sean was going to be fed a bottle of formula for his next feed, as my nipples can't handle any more feeding for the next few hours. It's late, and it's been a long day, so we're all going to head to bed.